When Storks are Stupid: Navigating County Adoption

hey all,
so the other day i called the county to see if we could move forward, unfortunately they didn’t think that it was important to give me more info. so i am lucky enough to have a client who happens to work for the county and helps run the adoption program for my county. she gave me the name of the person that i should contact to give me more info, one thing leads to another and i find the name of the bastard thats holding up our file. the question is.. should i call him? i have his number. but im worried about pissing him off and then having the whole file help captive for ever.. thoughts?

Hi All!

So in my previous post I talked about a private adoption agency that was run similarly to the county but had a much quicker application process. Unfortunately what they don’t tell you until you call is that (a) you are much less likely to actually get a baby, (b) if you are lucky enough to get a baby you might not get to keep it if the county decides that it wants to give it to someone else and (c) there adoption process is more invasive then the counties by far. Now I already thought that the county was a little ridiculous when it came to making sure we weren’t criminals ext (especially considering where the kids are actually from) but these private agencies are worse! They visit randomly every week to make sure that you are following the rules and what not. I don’t think that I would mind that so much since I have no intention of not following the rules unless they are stupid.. but I don’t like how invasive and how often that seems to be. How can a kid feel like we are his family and this is his home, and that we deserve respect when they are butting in all the time?  So I have decided to pursue  the county because really I don’t have any other choice. To get what I want I have to play by their rules. Which annoys me to know end since I like to make up the rules as I go along and bureaucracy is the most frustrating thing invented. I will keep at it though, I think I can do this. I want to be a mother more than anything so I will do this.
So with yet another bombshell I will say good night and I will check in again when I have more news!

~Maybe Mama

so today listening to the radio i heard a commercial for a fost/adopt center called olive crest. they said they can have a baby placed in your home within 5 months. that would be awesome! im going to call tomorrow and see if they would work with us on our adoption. i really cant afford to pay to adopt but we will see if they have some sort of program for the open hearted but short funded.. we will see. at least im more hopeful then i have been in a while. wish me luck!

hi guys,
sorry it took so long to post. my frustration is mounting with how ridiculous this process has become. first apparently you cant adopt if you have any unpaid parking tickets… then you cant adopt if you smell funny.. then if you have brown eyes and sleep on the left side of the bed your automatically disqualified.
I am being facetious but i am annoyed. so our new development, was because our file was open so long (because they havnt gotten their shit together) Bug and i have to redo all of our paper work so that they can have more time to waste my time! i am so frustrated with this its ridiculous! mean while there are kids needing a home and parents wanting to take them.. blah~!
hopefully i will get more info soon and be able to be more positive. right now it is not.

hi gang,
hope everyones doing well. havnt heard anything just didnt want you to think that ive forgotten about my blog. i will call tomorrow and see if i come up with anything.

Hi Guys,
Sorry its been a while, I wish I had something to write, unfortunately I don’t. I hope to hear something next week, maybe that they finally received my packet. I have to say its very frustrating that they dont feel the need to even tell you whats going on. So I promise as soon as I have something to write about i will! have a great night!
~Maybe Mama

hey peeps,
hope you had a great fathers day. ours was nice. i got bug a pillow with a card that said enjoy your sleep now i thought it was clever anyway. his mom got him a flip cam and he loves it.. i dont want to be recorded! we will see if i can get away with that.
no real developments on the adoption front! stay tuned i promise to let you know when i know more!

sooo after a very long and tedious process, we are on the way to our next stage in the process(note to anyone who is trying to adopt through the county) know that they will tell you that you might move forward as soon as you turn in your paper work. this is not the case, they will look at everything, your history, your life everything about you, then make you explain pay or fix anything that they feel that isnt appropriate )
sooo after everything has been inspected and we finally pass muster we now can move to our next inspection.. the one where they check the cavity between my *&% and my *(&%.
anyway  they said that i should hear  from them on tues about the next steps.
on a bright note, i think i want to name our daughter Grace if we get a girl, i like that it denotes the grace of God. We will name our son Mathew because that means gift of God. i think both names are very apt no matter how we get a child. they will be truly a gift of Gods grace.

~Maybe Mama

Hi Interwebs!
So ill just post a quick up date..
So Bug has had a few involvements with the law (as in hes an evil speeder ) so we now have to fix all those fines before moving on to our next step. Frustrating yes, irreversible damage no. We have an appt with the social worker to clear everything up and we should now be moving ahead as scheduled.
On other news my foot is still in a stupid boot from my retarded fall last Saturday. I am still whinny and driving my poor hubby nuts. its good times
Will post more when i have an update! Happy Sunday!
~Maybe Mama

so yesterday as i was leaving the house my heal caught on the flag stone steps and i twisted ankle and fell like a sequoia in the forest..tiiiiimmmmbbbbeeeeeerrrrrrrr it was good stuff. so here i am in a brace with out any time off.. its pretty much shit. what do you ask does this have with adoption? nothing but i wanted to complain about it anyway. i did realize though how easy it will be for me to love a child, no matter what ailment he or she might have. so i am a lot less worried about the situation. what ever God gives me i will be happy with and love.

~Maybe Mama